For example, I am a musician. This is a must. This will always be apart of my life and it is important to my mental wellbeing to continue to progress as such. I have a creative side that desperately needs to be put to work. If this isn't happening at "work", then I must make time for it at home without hurting the time I devote to my wife, family, and friends. I also want to be a writer, a computer programmer, a world-class chef, a penguin, play an alien on one of the Star Trek shows, and learn to juggle. It is important that I get myself straightened out to do these things!
From my research, much from the books I've listed in a previous post, it seems beneficial to work on this by adding 2 or 3 productive habits a week. It is important not to dive in the deep end and change everything about your life in one shot. If I can make just one habit stick, I will feel accomplished and motivated to add another. If I try 10 habits and fail at all of them, I will feel worthless and just end up cursing at myself in a mirror. My focus will also be to remove several bad habits a week. Essentially, I want to replace two or three bad habits with good habits every week. To better choose effective habits, I have created categories to which a habit I choose will be used to improve:
- Mental Health
- Physical Health
- Chores & Overall Well-Being
- Family & Friends
For example, this week I am adding the habit of doing a 2-Minute Drill every morning, as recommended by the Men's Health Belly Off! Diet. This quick series of exercises (sit-ups, push-ups, etc) is to be done as soon as I wake up every morning. It will improve my metabolism, get the blood going to prepare me for an active day, and will start off the day on a proactive track. This habit will benefit the "Physical Health" category primarily. After this becomes habit, then I will add on an actual work out of top of this, to be done 4 times a week.
The bad habit I'm trading in for this is VIDEO GAMES. I've made a horrible habit of getting out of bed and immediately playing video games while I drink my morning coffee. In my defense, it has been a very successful way to wake myself up. Unfortunately, it is also successful in creating a black hole that I get sucked into for several hours before I even noticed the day is passing me by. Starting off the day this way creates a lot of lazy momentum that is tough to turn it around. To help facilitate this habit, I have stowed away my video games. Out of sight, out of mind. Good-bye my darlings....
Also, I've given my kitties the boot from my office space. KTHXBAI!!!